Chances are, you’ve heard about manifesting, and maybe you’ve wondered: Is it for real?
Can you actually manifest abundant financial wellness, a greater sense of wellbeing, the career or business of your dreams, better relationships, exciting travel, vibrant health, and so much more?
If you’ve ever wondered any of the above, you’re in the right place.
In the past few years, I’ve manifested an amazing, thriving coaching business, a beautiful community of clients, a cozy and sacred home space and environment, world travel, and totally aligned friends. I manifested all this from a place of having none of these things. Six years ago, I lived in my grandma’s spare room, had a job I didn’t enjoy, was going through hell in my relationship, didn’t have any friends who felt aligned, and didn’t travel internationally. Since then, I’ve also helped clients manifest successful businesses, marriages, babies, cars, homes, you name it. All of this is possible after you learn to tap into the incredible power of manifesting.
Here is my three-step process to help you begin to manifest the things you want:
Step 1: Understand what manifesting is.
Manifesting can be so misunderstood. A lot of people, my past self included, think that manifesting is some kind of magical, woo-woo thing where you say what you want, and it’s supposed to fall from the sky. Spoiler alert: it doesn’t. Manifesting is about attracting things you want into your life experience by deliberately becoming an energetic, vibrational match to them. As the Law of Attraction states, “Like attracts like.” Think about it like this: You get to order what you want from the Universe, and you place your order by what you focus on with your energy, resources, feelings, and thoughts. The more you focus on something, the more the Universe delivers it to you.
Step 2: Discover what you’re already manifesting. (Yes, you’re manifesting right now, even if you don’t know it yet.)
In order to know what you’re attracting, look around and notice what’s currently in your life. For example, if you’re around a lot of people who complain, gossip, and talk about how they don’t like their jobs, chances are, you’re doing some of that yourself. This can be tough to admit, especially if you don’t like what you see. However, if you want to be deliberate about your energy and manifest what you do want, you’ve got to be willing to get real with yourself.
On the other hand, if you look around and find yourself in cheerful company, happy environments, and good things are always happening to you, it’s likely you’re generally feeling good and thinking thoughts that match that. If you haven’t been deliberately manifesting yet, you probably have a mix of things you want and don’t want in your life.
Take a moment to journal out the following prompts:
- Notice what’s in your life that you currently don’t feel happy with or aligned.
- Notice what in your life is making you happy and grateful.
- Notice what your habitual, default thoughts are about the topic(s) you wrote down in question #1. What kinds of conversations do you have about these topics? How do you typically feel about these topics? What do you say to yourself about these topics?
- Notice what your habitual, default thoughts are about the topic(s) you wrote down in question #2. What kinds of conversations do you have about these topics? How do you typically feel about these topics? What do you say to yourself about these topics?
Don’t be surprised if you find you spend a lot of negative energy on things you aren’t happy with and a lot of positive energy on the things that bring you joy. This is totally normal. Realizing this is the first step to getting your power back and manifesting a life you truly love.
Step 3: Stop manifesting what you don’t want, and start manifesting what you do want.
The easiest way to begin manifesting is by paying attention to how you feel, and then consciously deciding to focus on more things that feel good to you in the areas where you desire a change.
Remember, when you’re not feeling good, you manifest more stuff that doesn’t feel good. For example, if you have a job you don’t enjoy, and you spend most of your time thinking about the things that make you miserable in that job, you’ll get more misery. But if you can shift, even if it’s only slightly, to focus on things that you appreciate about your job—maybe your co-worker who makes you laugh, or the fact that it pays the bills and allows you to build your business on the side—you’ll begin to start attracting things that are aligned with that feeling.
Don’t attempt to dramatically shift, because your brain will override it. Slow, subtle shifts are key in the beginning. On the flip side, if there’s a topic in your life that has you beaming, glowing, and feeling amazing, spend a little more time beaming about it. Milk your time feeling amazing. Let that be your dominant feeling, more of the time. Now, here’s the caveat: The Universe hears what you feel, not what you say. So, if you’re in a job you don’t love, and you’re telling yourself, “I’m going to manifest a job I love in a company that appreciates me,” but you actually feel disempowered, unappreciated, and miserable most of the time, the Universe will hear that instead, because you’re focused more on what you don’t want.
So, be honest with how you feel, and choose more often to focus on things that feel better to you more of the time. As a rule of thumb, only make decisions from a place of feeling good. No good decisions come from a place of feeling bad. You’ll just manifest more things that feel bad.
Bonus Step: Create your feel-good list, and learn when to just let it go.
- Create a list of 10 things that instantly make you feel better, so you can use it when you’re feeling really mis-aligned. Maybe it’s petting your cat, going for a hike, calling a high-vibe friend, watering a plant, scheduling a spa appointment, or doing yoga. Let it be easy, fun, and high vibe.
- On the days where nothing is working, and you just keep feeling worse and worse, do what I do and just surrender. Give it up, go to bed, watch Netflix, read a book, and try not to be so hard on yourself. You can start over tomorrow, next week, or even next month.
That’s it, my simple three-step formula for manifesting. As you start to manifest things you love, it will get easier, and you’ll gain momentum. Acknowledge what you’re manifesting, have fun along the way, and don’t be too hard on yourself when you get it wrong. We all do, sometimes. Once you realize how much power you actually have, manifesting becomes fun and easy, and you’ll never go back to living by default.