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Helpful Tips for a Happy and Healthy Sex Life

Get your mojo back with these suggestions to support a healthy sex life.
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An active libido may come naturally to some, but to others, having a high sex drive is a struggle to maintain. With hormones, stress, anxiety, contraception, and other factors that alter your libido, it can be hard to know how to get yourself into the mood. 

If you are worried about disappearing or losing your desire for sex, don’t panic. Remember, there are plenty of ways to get you in the mood, and it is completely natural and normal for your desires to ebb and flow.

Here, the experts at sexual wellness platform Bedbible have curated a list of some of the best ways to get your mojo back and get excited to be excited again. 


Self-care is helpful to become relaxed enough to enjoy sex. Often stress can be hidden and not spoken about, so if you feel comfortable doing so, why not open up to your partner or a trusted friend about your stresses? You might find a problem shared is a problem halved. 

Try taking an hour daily to be with yourself and indulge in self-care. Whether taking a long bubble bath or going on a walk to get in some fresh air and exercise, practicing this and including it in your daily routine will allow you to have dedicated time to yourself, which is a great way to gain back independence, confidence, and calmness.  

Remember: Masturbation is an excellent form of self-care, so why not implement this into your self-care routine and get to know your own body? It can be a fantastic way to discover your turn-ons and what you might like your sexual partner or partners to help incorporate into your sexual encounters. 

Focus on Foreplay 

For many, foreplay can be the most exciting part of sex, so why not focus more on this aspect when you might not be feeling up to it, as it could get you in the mood? The feel-good hormones produced when indulging in foreplay will reduce stress and help you feel more in the moment.  

Kissing is a great way to release oxytocin, dopamine, and serotonin, which will get you comfortable and relaxed. Introducing toys into foreplay is another great way to get your body and mind ready; even better, if you have toys for your solo play. Offer them to your partner to switch it up and get them in the mood, too.   

Eat Foods That Boost Libido 

If you think your sex drive could use a little boost, try these foods, and see if they get you going again: 

  • Watermelon: Watermelon is rich in B vitamins, which help with sexual endurance and the production of energy. It delivers Viagra-like effects to both men and women, making you feel relaxed, reducing stress, and putting you in the mood.  
  • Fatty Fish: The acids in tuna, salmon, and sardines will give your body a vast increase of dopamine and increase blood flow. They are also rich in omega-3 acids and vitamin B6, as well as delivering protein at a low-calorie level, all leading to increased libido and a healthy lifestyle.  
  • Strawberries: Strawberries are filled with vitamin C, an excellent enhancer for your sex drive, especially in men. Vitamin C supports male hormones, aiding arousal, and equalizing stress hormones. Why not try dark chocolate-covered strawberries, which include flavonoids that help relax your blood vessels and help you to relax into the mood?

Know Your Turn-Ons and Offs

Everybody is different, which is great, but it can also cause confusion in the bedroom. Something that turns you on might not be someone else’s go-to, which is why it’s important to express to your sexual partner or partners what you like and what you would prefer to avoid. There are many ways you can increase arousal and desire, so here’s a list of potential aids that might get you get in the mood: 

  • Masturbation 
  • Fantasizing 
  • Sexting 
  • Porn 
  • Music 
  • Sex toys 
  • Erotica 
About The Author

Julie is the co-founder of Well Defined and a longtime influencer and advocate in the wellness world. Along with her work at Well Defined, she is an executive recruiter and marketing specialist for Hutchinson Consulting. She is also a consultant and content strategist for numerous wellness brands. She is the former editor-in-chief and publisher of American Spa and was named a 2019 Folio Top Woman in Media in the Industry Trailblazers category and a 2018 winner of ISPA’s Innovate Award. She is also a seasoned journalist, specializing in spa, travel, health, fitness, wellness, sustainability, and beauty. She has been published in Departures,, E! Online,, Insider’s Guide to Spas, Luxury Travel Advisor, Marin Magazine, Ocean Home, Smart Meetings, Spa Asia, and Travel Agent.